Love is a euphemism of the word reciprocity

We all have our different definition of love. Some define it as blind, some say it's like a river and other perceive it other views. Among these definitions, only one definition is passable to my taste, and that is... Love is a euphemism of the word reciprocity. Love is just a term to euphemize the word exchange. People love and give love because they want something in return. They are expecting that something might be given to them. That something may not come in the form the same as what he/she has given but the point is, he/she still receives something when he/she has given out love.

I don't intend to persuade anyone, I just want to spill out my view. This is what I firmly believe in. If you have objections, feel free. Just don't attack me as a person. I do not believe that there is an altruist somewhere who is willing to give love to the world without asking for anything as a payment. In the first place, the concept of "I Love You Too" wouldn't be built if love doesn't ask for something in return.

Let us start the arguments by pointing out that by the people that say they are in love, they must have someone or something to divert that feeling to. It can be a person, an object or a virtual being. It cannot exist when you are alone. For by that instance, no mutualism can happen. No exchange between the two sides can exist. Of course you can love yourself but you still have to divert your feeling of love to a person, the only difference is that, you are that person. Love is also a selfish thing. It only hides under the guise of being unselfish. Now, why do we share love if it is selfish? It is because people understand that their selfish ends wouldn't be attained if they do not cooperate with other beings/objects as the receiver and giver of actions.

I will cite some example why I think that love is just a euphemism of the word reciprocity. Parents "love" their children because they are the ones who will tell the world that they are great. If their children become achiever, then it will reflect to them. They can always brag about how great their children are and how hard it is to take care of him/her when he/she was still a child. They give love so that in the future, they will receive a manifestation of themselves in their children. Another thing about parents is that they take care of their children because of the anticipation that they are the ones who will take care of them when they grow old. They are giving love while they are still young so that when they are already incapable of taking care of themselves, someone is going to look out for them.

As for relationships of two persons in love, mutualism makes bonds among people stronger. Notice that mutualism is the strongest relationship when it comes to interdependence. Person 1 and person 2 love each other because they are either complement each other or see something that other person cannot give them. People stay together because they either need companion, intimacy or happiness. Some people's relationship break apart because they feel that there is something lacking, they are already unhappy with the relationship. Also, take notice that in a relationship where there is an unequal share of love between two persons, like for example, if Person A loves Person B more than Person B loves Person A, then chance is for Person B to be the boss in the relationship so to compensate the costs that he/she is giving to that relationship. Otherwise, Break-up happen when a person the relationship is not working well, meaning, and one person is left out or having a feeling of not being included.

In case of sacrificial love, that happened not because the person who sacrificed is an altruist. It happened because of some motives in the one who surrender. He/She might think that he/she will feel guilty if he/she doesn't do anything. The result of that sacrifice will give him/her a feeling of contentment and security afterwards. Security, in the sense that he/she wouldn't feel any guilt at all; and contentment, because people will see him/her as some kind of a hero.

To conclude this, I still want to argue that Love is a euphemism of the word reciprocity. By reciprocity, I mean, exchange. When you love someone, you love him/her because you need him/her and you want something in return. It is a give and take relationship therefore, it only happens when there are parties involve, not when you are alone. The moral lesson? We should think critical of things.